Movies -- More than Entertainment

Movies entertain but they also are wonderful ways to learn and stay resilient despite everyday concerns and obstacles. Watching "Under the Tuscan Sun" after undergoing a break-up or divorce has given many women hope for their future. "Fried Green Tomatoes" reminds us of the sadness in this world yet because the characters handle it so well, we admire and become inspired by them. "Up" has one of the most moving animated scenes you will ever see about falling in love, getting married, and how life gets in the way of our dreams -- yet we survive. Different dreams come true instead -- some we never knew we wished for -- yet they were part of our destiny.

Movie therapy is an interesting technique used by some counselors to help clients witness others in similar situations and how they handle (or don't handle) their concerns. While we may be envious of someone like Carrie Bradshaw from "Sex and the City" for falling in love with handsome and rich "Big", we see that she is human and has her faults, relationships are difficult, and that friends are really what get you through life. Who can't watch "Erin Brockovich" with all of her faults and money trouble without getting excited when good triumphs over corporate greed and evil? And how about when the mean boss gets what he deserves and the underdogs win in "Nine to Five"? We laugh, we cry, we feel, we learn. And often we realize that our problems are not so bad after all.

Even children can benefit from watching movies together as a family, stopping it during certain scenes, and asking, "What would you do if that happened to you?" The "Diary of a Wimpy Kid" movie series is a great illustration of the trials and tribulations middle-schoolers and siblings go through. And I especially loved how kids with disabilities are portrayed in "Percy Jackson" -- for example, the main character has dyslexia yet it works to his advantage as a demigod. What sometimes holds us back or makes us different can actually be very powerful indeed.

So grab some popcorn and your favorite candy bar and get some "therapy" in the comfort of your living room. Then talk about it with family or friends. Better yet, join one of our Positivity Groups starting next month. We'll select a movie each month then talk about its theme and inspirational moments, and how to incorporate these positive ideas into our lives despite how life gets in the way. Women's groups start in February and kids and teen groups are in the works. Email me at donnadavislmhc@ gmail.com if you are interested in learning more.

The Power of Positive Thinking

Welcome to a new year - another reason to start fresh, put the past behind us, and hope for the better. Maybe you'll get the job you've always dreamed of this year or maybe a tall, dark stranger will sweep you off your feet. Yes, with a new year, all things are possible - and thinking positively will help you achieve your dreams. Positivity unblocks our minds, helps us focus good energy, and we become more open to chance and ideas.

Ever imagine what you would do if you inherited $5 million? The inspiring energy released from just imagining a life filled with choice and fulfilled hopes gets your mind in gear and ready for new opportunities. Try it - even make a list of all that you would do. It is a lot more fun than making your shopping or chores list! Then try to figure out how you might achieve some of your dreams on a smaller scale now.

For example, if you've always dreamed of going to Paris, put it out to the universe by saying, "I will go to Paris someday." Then see if you can take a low cost French language class locally or make plans with friends for dinner in a French restaurant (we love Brasserie Joe in Boston with the help of Restaurant.com gift certificates). Watch French movies or American movies about France such as Woody Allen's new "Midnight in Paris" flick. As you watch, envision yourself there. Then grab a jar and toss in your change and any extra cash. Think of how you can save more - maybe by bringing your lunch to work instead of eating out. Savings such as these can add up. Before you know it, you will be on your way over the Atlantic.

Just like chocolate releases endorphins that make you feel happy, you'll find that positive energy, if consistently channeled, will do the same. Your attitude will improve, ideas will flow, and your dreams will be closer than before. New year -- new way of thinking -- and happier you!